The Average Military Wife / Girlfriend

[proudairforcewife0430]

hey ladies.... I thought this would be nice for all the military wives and girlfriends would like to read about being a military wife / girlfriend!!! God bless us and our husbands and boyfriends!!!!:D




THE AVERAGE MILITARY WIFE/GIRLFRIEND


The average age of the military wife/girlfriend is 20 years old.

She isn't old enough to buy a beer, but is old enough to manage the entire household.

She probably never saw herself loving a man who was in the military, but she loves him regardless.

Her penmanship has improved over the last few months, due to excessive letter writing.

She cries alot, because she misses the man she swore to love. Her life isn't complete without him.

She looks very tired, because of her many sleepless nights either waiting for a call that never came or one that did and just because she heard his voice, she is too overjoyed to sleep.

As a wife, she is classified as a dependent, but she is completely independent.

She tends to her household, her kids, her school work, and her job, all without her husband.

She manages a smile, even though inside she's crying.

She understands that the man she loves has to go far away.

She understand that he can be taken from her in a moments notice.

She feels a great sense of pride and probably cries whenever she hears the National Anthem, sees a flag blowing in the breeze, or watches the news and hears about another death in Iraq, worrying that it might be him.

She goes weeks without a call or a letter, but she writes him whenever she gets a free moment.

She knows how to convert civilian time into military time.

She knows how to iron his clothes and how to get the creases just right.


Before he left she used to complain if she didn't see him for a day or two, but now she gets annoyed when she hears someone complaining about not seeing their boyfriends.

She may not have seen him for months but she remembers everything about him, every scar he has, the way he smells, the sound of him sleeping.

She has every picture of him and them out and in frames, she stares at them for hours on end and has read every letter he's written at least 40 times.

Even though her man is a half a world away, she manages to go on with her life, as he would want her to.

You may not know what she looks like, but as soon as you see her you'll know that her husband is a world away without even having to speak to her.

She's the one who's half frowning half smiling, she has at least one Support out Troops pin that she wears and one displayed on her car.

Half her wardrobe is based on his military branch. She never knew that could love the color camouflage, green, tan, navy blue, red or black so much.

Next time you see her, thank her for what her and the man she loves is doing. She will greatly appreciate it and she will smile the rest of the day!

[SaraLeeCakes]

Wow..something I have to look forward to. My boyfriend just joined the Airforce..and when I went to see him graduate from bootcamp he proposed to me! Now...Im stuck at home while he's in tech. school. But when he's done..we're going to get married. I can't believe I'm going to be a military wife. I've NEVER pictured myself being one. But I LOVE him so nothing else matters.

[inunez]

this is hard...my bf joined the marines about a year ago, he's suppose to leave for iraq in september, it makes me so nervous and scared...he knows how much i love him and that im going to be waiting for him. Its just so new. to all the military wives and gf's god bless you and god bless our men out there....semper fi

[armygurl3389]

I am not that far in my relatione ship. My boyfriend joined the National guard. We have been together for bout 6 months now. I wanted to join before i met him. But now I know if i do i would probably not ever gonna get to see him again. Now I realize how proud I am for all those men and wemon who gave up ther life to serve ther country! I miss him! He is only in bootcamp now! I never leave my cell phone behind! I can't wait to hear his voice again. I love him so much. I pray for him every night. I hate that this is only the begining. He is gonna be away from home for a while! He still has ait. THen from ther I only hope that he dosn't go over sees! Then again, that can also mean he can relive someone else to come home to their family! I hope for the best in everyone! God bless!

[jessicagray@myspace.com]

My husband too is in the Air Force. I can not tell you where he is, but this poem is true. I cried when I read this. It is very true and touching. Glad to know that other people see things the same as me.

[proudnavywife]

This poem is very true!!!! I'm not looking forward to another deployment, especially because when the time come we may have a family by then, and I don't want him to not be there for our kids. The first one wasn't so bad, because I had my parents there with me, and they saw me go through so much, and 3 $200 phone bills while be was gone. The deployments are hard, I cried myself to sleep many of nights, and then I would get woken up at 1 or 2 am by my phone ringing and it be him. I was so nice to hear his voice, but I longed for his touch. I love this poem!!!!!!

[andyouwereonly]

I knew from when I first meet my fiance that he wanted to be a marine. But the past two years just flew by and I miss him. He's in boot camp and I can't talk to him for another 8 weeks. I just got his mailing address today. We have a three year old together. She isn't mine biologicaly but her real mom thinks she can come and go when she wants so I'm there most the time. Before now we could hardly go a day without seeing each other and damn I miss him so much. I never thought I would be able to love some one this much and I know it sounds silly but the worste thing about it all is the dreams. I dream of him being home and holding me but then I wake up and its all over. Its like the worste nightmare ever. I miss his touch and voice. Luckily he proposed before he left and we got it on video. So I still get to hear his voice, but that still doesn't fill the space of him being gone. I just miss him so much and seeing my friends and family holding there loved ones really just makes it worst. I went out with my best friend and her boyfriend over the weekend and she was saying how much of an ass hole he was because he went in the house and left her during an argument and i just jumped down throat because she can still hold him and see him. I only see pictures. In four months my baby comes back but only for two weeks tops then he leaves again. I don't know where or how long. This is all just so hard for me and I don't want any one around me like his family who are here for me 100% to know how much I really hurt inside so I'm just going to blab it all to ya'll. You all have a much better idea on what I should expect then his family does. I'm just not sure how I'm going to handle the next few months let alone the next two years. We wont be getting married till then. Please if any one ever feels like talking, I'm all ears. I need all the support I can get and I'm sure you all do to. My email is andyouwereonly@hotmail.com

[Left at Home]

I am not that far in my relatione ship. My boyfriend joined the National guard. We have been together for bout 6 months now. I wanted to join before i met him. But now I know if i do i would probably not ever gonna get to see him again. Now I realize how proud I am for all those men and wemon who gave up ther life to serve ther country! I miss him! He is only in bootcamp now! I never leave my cell phone behind! I can't wait to hear his voice again. I love him so much. I pray for him every night. I hate that this is only the begining. He is gonna be away from home for a while! He still has ait. THen from ther I only hope that he dosn't go over sees! Then again, that can also mean he can relive someone else to come home to their family! I hope for the best in everyone! God bless!




Mine went to Basic the day ever we started dating. If that isnt weird but in the time of not hearing from him, and never talking to him Ive grown to love him. I worry about him all the time. And those guard commericals, they make me cry, yes Im proud but I cry cause Im scared. Ive made buddies with serval of the men in his Platoon, they are all so sweet. Do any of you women have your men stationed in Fort Sill? Love to hear from you.
Chrys

[militarybrat88]

Hey girls,
My dad is in the airforce and that poem/letter is so true about my mom, and now me...only with out the kids. My boyfriend has joined the army and left for basic in march he is in AIT now and we are now engaged after 2 years of dating! He and I talk all the time about the possibility of him going to Iraq and im not sure how imma handle it except i'll be looking to my mom alot for support. I just wanted to say thanks for that poem it is so true.

[nikimae22]

hey ladies.... I thought this would be nice for all the military wives and girlfriends would like to read about being a military wife / girlfriend!!! God bless us and our husbands and boyfriends!!!!:D




THE AVERAGE MILITARY WIFE/GIRLFRIEND


The average age of the military wife/girlfriend is 20 years old.

She isn't old enough to buy a beer, but is old enough to manage the entire household.

She probably never saw herself loving a man who was in the military, but she loves him regardless.

Her penmanship has improved over the last few months, due to excessive letter writing.

She cries alot, because she misses the man she swore to love. Her life isn't complete without him.

She looks very tired, because of her many sleepless nights either waiting for a call that never came or one that did and just because she heard his voice, she is too overjoyed to sleep.

As a wife, she is classified as a dependent, but she is completely independent.

She tends to her household, her kids, her school work, and her job, all without her husband.

She manages a smile, even though inside she's crying.

She understands that the man she loves has to go far away.

She understand that he can be taken from her in a moments notice.

She feels a great sense of pride and probably cries whenever she hears the National Anthem, sees a flag blowing in the breeze, or watches the news and hears about another death in Iraq, worrying that it might be him.

She goes weeks without a call or a letter, but she writes him whenever she gets a free moment.

She knows how to convert civilian time into military time.

She knows how to iron his clothes and how to get the creases just right.


Before he left she used to complain if she didn't see him for a day or two, but now she gets annoyed when she hears someone complaining about not seeing their boyfriends.

She may not have seen him for months but she remembers everything about him, every scar he has, the way he smells, the sound of him sleeping.

She has every picture of him and them out and in frames, she stares at them for hours on end and has read every letter he's written at least 40 times.

Even though her man is a half a world away, she manages to go on with her life, as he would want her to.

You may not know what she looks like, but as soon as you see her you'll know that her husband is a world away without even having to speak to her.

She's the one who's half frowning half smiling, she has at least one Support out Troops pin that she wears and one displayed on her car.

Half her wardrobe is based on his military branch. She never knew that could love the color camouflage, green, tan, navy blue, red or black so much.

Next time you see her, thank her for what her and the man she loves is doing. She will greatly appreciate it and she will smile the rest of the day!


I have been doing this for almost 2 years. This is one of the hardest things that I have gone through, but I am glad that I did go through it. Now I know what all those other people felt. I never thought of buying anything that had to do with Army, but now I find myself buying it for me and my girls. I try to get all that I can to support my husband. I know what it is like for all you girls that are just starting. It is scary, but as long as you keep your mind on other things you will do very good. That is what I do when I am feeling down.S:)

[Aria0928]

I'm new at all this and that poem made me cry. My bf hasn't left for Iraq yet, but they keep saying it's a possiblity, soon. God bless all u ladies out there that r having to endure this! U have amazing strength!

[tiajaynbaby]

May god bless you as you take the journey into military life, I was a wife of a solider for 4 years n its was the hardest thing i have ever done

[desiraesmom04]

I think that this is one of the greatest poems I have ever read.....my husband is in the Navy and he is getting ready to start going out to sea alot and I know that it will be hard at first, but I'm sure I'll get though it okay.....I dont really have a choice, with my little one here......she's always looking to me when daddy's not here and asking where he is, so that I think is going to be the hardest part about it, because I'll miss him, but she wont really understand what is going on for a couple more years....she'll be two on Aug. 25. He went to Boot Camp when she was 8 months old and missed her starting to get alot of teeth and walking and that was the hardest part for him, and when we went to his graduation, she didnt want him to leave.....it was so sweet but it made me teary eyed, because I knew that she hadnt seen him for 2 months and she didnt understand why he couldnt come with us and why he hadnt been there, and that it would be another 3 months until we saw him again.....that is the hardest part for me......seeing her upset when her daddy leaves just to go down the road to the store, and he'll be right back. He leaves for 2 weeks in September and he will be going out to sea for a couple of weeks at a time starting at the end of October and then he leaves in April to Hawaii for six months when his boat is being comissioned and wont be back until October.....he doesnt want to go because he doesnt want to miss her growing up, but isnt mad about it at all....he loves his job and what he is doing it for, and to all of our troops and their wives that are stationed over seas....I COMMEND YOU FOR YOUR EFFORTS AND YOUR STRENGTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You give me alot of inspiration and make me want to do just as well when my husband starts leaving......THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I APPRECIATE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D

[bridgett_shorter]

Wow,
That is so true. I have been a military wife for 5 years and 1 dating. My hubby was in active duty army and now National guard. That poem, says everything that I am going through now. We are on our 5 the deployment this one being the longest 18 months to Kosovo. It has just started so, of course I cried when I read this poem. Being the Wife or Husband of a soldier is the hardest job in the military. We are the mothers, fathers. grandparents. We are everything to them. The one constant in there lives. In the end it has to be worth it. Freedom is not free or cheap. The price is very dear and thats what we do so people we dont know and will never meet have the rights that they take advantage of every day!!
Just another Military wife,
Bridgett

[mrstodd05]

You will be fine I promise. Its very hard in the beginning. The first three weeks of them being gone it the hardest. The important thing is to keep a routine and stay busy. My husband has been in the army for 15 years, and is soon to deploy to iraq. I have two children and we live 1000 from all of our family. We live in El Paso Texas so there is a major cultrure difference. Take lots of pictures of things that you do even if they are silly. Those are the best ones to send to him. It will make him feel like he is with you. Oh and spray a little of your perfume on his letters, they love that. I wish you well.

[Lil_Marine]

this is hard...my bf joined the marines about a year ago, he's suppose to leave for iraq in september, it makes me so nervous and scared...he knows how much i love him and that im going to be waiting for him. Its just so new. to all the military wives and gf's god bless you and god bless our men out there....semper fi

My boyfriend left for Iran june 4th of 2006.He is in the Navy.I want to join the Marine Corp tho...It is really hard..I miss him.I worrie about him so much...But all will be well tho....He`ll be home befor you know it.Just hold it all together.

[Imissmysoldier]

Wow..something I have to look forward to. My boyfriend just joined the Airforce..and when I went to see him graduate from bootcamp he proposed to me! Now...Im stuck at home while he's in tech. school. But when he's done..we're going to get married. I can't believe I'm going to be a military wife. I've NEVER pictured myself being one. But I LOVE him so nothing else matters.

That's great. My husband did the same thing to me, I went down there to watch him grad from basic and he proposed to me on the river walk down town in San Antonio, TX.We got married on Christmas Eve 05'. He is now stationed at washington for training... before he leaves to go to iraq.. which yeh is the 22nd of this month.. in like one day.. its hard! So where is ur husband stationed.. My husband will be gone for 8months maybe longer but we hope not.Its fun bein a military wife.. but sucks when there gone! Hope to hear from ya.

[adolescence2174]

Wow..something I have to look forward to. My boyfriend just joined the Airforce..and when I went to see him graduate from bootcamp he proposed to me! Now...Im stuck at home while he's in tech. school. But when he's done..we're going to get married. I can't believe I'm going to be a military wife. I've NEVER pictured myself being one. But I LOVE him so nothing else matters.

Hey Sara is high school mate Patricia, I know we seemed to never really get along...but I hope we can make mends and maybe be good friends. Well I noticed you on this site after I was looking up a support group for military girlfriends...yeah I'm one too. It's not too bad right now but there's nothing like having someone who can relate to you. Well I hope all is well for you and Steven...Janurary isn't too far aways CONGRADS!

[jessicalwhite]

The poem made me cry like a baby, but I couldn't have said it better myself!! My husband was a navy corpsman for 5 yrs, 4 of those he was attached to the marines. He went through the blue to green program and is now in the army. He is in AIT in El Paso Texas right now. I've been through quite a few deployments. It's funny how the more there is the harder it seems to get to see them go! I'm going crazy here and it's just AIT!! I've been through much longer and harder times than this, but I'm having a really hard time with this one.

[armywife052306]

This poem made me cry because it is right everything it said is true. I have been an army wife for over a year now and this poem just describes everything. I think the hardest job in the army is being the wife. My husband deployed for the first time this year. I delevered our daughter while he is gone and some times I feel so lost. I have cried my self to sleep many times and they say it gets easer but I don't beleve that. He reenlisted for six more years and some times I just don't know if I can do this job. Then I realize that I love him and I will do it no matter what it takes.

[you_are_the_brave]

I love being an Army wife, I am so proud of my husband, the time away is hard, but I know that what he is doing is right and I am proud of him for it!

[ur_breaking_point]

hello there to all the military girlfriends and wives.. i will be keeping all of u in my prayers and ur families... me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 yrs now and its hard he is now in iraq and is not going to be home until next yrs some time... i just ask that uall keep him in ur prayers and all his troops and alll that is sreving for our freedom... his name is jaih banks

[Rachel Stath]

My husband is in the Marine.. He just left for iraq.. He will be home in May 07.. I know all i can do is take one day at a time.. but.. you guy know..
-rachel-

[missouri-cutie]

Lets start by saying I met my boyfriend my junior year of high school. We went most of the year dating other ppl until prom time came around and we hooked up. He graduated that yr in May and left for bootcamp in July. I was devastated since I still had a yr of school left and I knew this is they guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I truly loved him with all my heart and would die for him if life choose for me too. So July came and he left. I seriously thought we were done. My senior year came and went and we were still together. The day of my graduation he asked me to marry him, given he was stationed in VA Beach and I still lived in Missouri we went a year engaged and yet still seperated. We were married in 98 and were still married today with two beautiful children.
Yes its rough, Yes the miles and the seperation will kill you, Yes you love him but if you really love him like you say you love him and have faith that your love will make it then you will.
I knew what I was getting myself into in dating him and marrying him. I did this to my self its not his fault he choose to fight this war. But it sure makes it easier knowing hes got someone beside him standing proud of what he does and loving him and supporting him. I was proud of my husband when he was a just a boyfriend working at the local grocery store but nothing is more prideful then saying I have a loved one serving and fighting for my country and seeing him walk out the door each morning in uniform.
High school was rough for me cause my boyfriend wasnt there for all the dances, and I didnt go on dates like the other girls but I knew he was there for me and doing something much greater for me then taking me out.
If you really love him you can make it and you will look back on this and giggle cause it was so easy. I also think as much time as weve spent away from each other has made us even closer and more loving towards each other. I fell seperation is a test to see how strong of a relationship you have with one another. We made it through all the deployments and seperations that 10 yrs in the military has provided for us we can make it through anything. I woulnt change anything about my life for anything
Michelle
Proud Navy Wife

[ur_breaking_point]

michelle,
i wanna thank u for sharing ur story with me, i lov3e my boyfriend with everything inside of me and im really proud of what he does and ill always be at his side....

[dabraingirl]

I met my boyfriend my junior year of high school playing video games online. He was only a senior then, on the opposite side of the country, and he already knew he wanted to go into the military. We spent the next year and half as close friends, talking to eachother constantly (or as much as possible) as he went to boot camp, ait, and then was deployed to Korea. When he was finally brought back stateside, the grace of God brought him to whithin driving distance of my college. It didn't take us very long to become something more than friends. We've been dating for almost a year now, and I love him with all my heart, he is my best friend in the whole world. He's been deployed off and on since we first started, the longest being a 3 month trip to Pakistan. But now, we're in our first three weeks of his year long deployment to Iraq, and this one seems so much harder than all the last. The poem is right, loving a military man means you never take for granted even the slightest of things, the way he smells, the way he feels, the way he smiles at you. All of it stays fresh in your mind and gives you the oomph you need to get up out of bed and live your life while he's away defending our country.

[Ilovecolt08]

Well.... where to start! I am so glad that i found this site! I can relate to all of you so much. Its comforting to know there are others out there going through exactly what i am. Let me give you a little history. I am 21. I was fortunate to find the man of my dreams. I had been in a very bad and abusive relationship for 6 years! And the most amazing kid, Colt Call 19, came to my rescue and helped me to get out of it. We are best friends that have now fallen in love. He left for boot camp at Fort Jackson on September 19th. Sept. 18 was the hardest day of my life. I thought I was going to die saying good bye to him. I miss him more then anything in this world! I know that he is the guy i want to spend the rest of my life with and I cant wait to have him holding me in his arms again! I would do anything for him. I will always be by his side and pledge to support him throughout his military career. He is the sweetest most respectful and caring kid i have ever meet. I coudnt ask for more. This is the hardest thing i have ever done. I cry myself to sleep all the time thinking about him and wanting him to be home. I am so proud of him as i am of all your husbands and boyfriends! I cant believe the sacrafices they go through in order to keep our country free. God bless to all of them. Even though this is so hard and i am not happy without him here i am really glad that we are going through this experience. It teaches you so much and tests your true feelings for eachother! we have learned so much about eachother through our letters. The most amazing thing is the phone calls!! Oh my gosh hearing his voice brings me to instant tears! My cell phone is always with me! The letters are great too. I am prepared to spend the rest of my life being a military girlfriend and hoepfully a military wife one day. I am so proud to call him my own. It scares me to death to think of him going over seas. All of you that have loved ones over there my heart goes out to you. If anyone ever needs to chat send me and email i would love to talk. jmorgan@royutah.org If anyone has a boy in South Carolina at Fort Jackson send me an email and lets chat!! Maybe our boys know eachother! God bless you all!!

[pvt. toms gurl]

hey everyone.. im really glad i found this site... it will prolly help me.. hopefully.. let me fill everyone in on my situation.. i was datin my boyfrin for 2 years when he told me he wanted to join the army... of course i was really upset n didnt want him to, but eventually i figured out that he really wanted it and it would be good for him, so then i jus dreaded the day he left... i went wit him to say good-bye.. almost the worst day of my life. i cried for weeks.. then i got my first letter n i was sooo excited. i went to his basic graduation 2 weeks ago... drove 14 hours.. and i stayed there for 4 days.. when i had to say good-bye again, it was worse than the first time, but the good thing was that he can have his cell phone now so we can talk more often. not everyday but at least a few times a week.. it makes me feel so much better. so now hes plannin on proposing to me when he comes home for christmas, then he leaves for germany in january... and he wants me to move there when i graduate n turn 18 next summer. im excited, but ill still have to go 6 months witout seein him :( i love him with my whole heart n nuttin will ever change that. i jus dread him goin overseas. :(

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[emad]

my cousin is in the army.we grew up together.we always went to the park.he got called to come 2 months ago.

[ArmyWIfe7984]

I would just like to say thank you for posting this. It is absolutely true. I am 21 years old and my husband is in Iraq at the moment. This is our 3rd deployment and we've only been married 2 and half years. It never gets easier. It just helps to know that other people are dealing with the stresses that come out of being married to the Military also. I love my Soldier and as nerve racking as this time is in our lives; we wouldn't change a thing. He loves his job and I love him.

[Usa_babydoll]

wow this was awesome!!! it definitely brought a tear to my eye because i know exactly how that feels!

[raingirlz_84]

I have been with my husband for a year,we just got married on the 9th of Dec. and we will have a baby girl in april. He was already in the army when i met him and today he reinlisted for the 3rd time. We both decided that was the best thing to do. We are moving to germany in june for 2 yrs. i hope. I'm more affraid he will be deployed again. He has been to iraq already. I pray he dont have to go back but if he does I WILL ALWAYS LOVE HIM AND BE THERE FOR HIM ALWAYS

[nikki9442]

Weclome!!!!!:)

[armywifey31597]

Hey there Ladies,
I liked the poem, it really hit home. I was 19 when my husband and I got married. WOW, I sound really old. HA! Anyway, I just wanted to let all of you know that it DOES get somewhat easier the longer you've been a part of the military. We've been through 5, count them, 5 deployments. Each has been hard, yes, but with each one it seems like we get stronger. Since our love is growing it seems that we trust each other more and can get the job done without a backward glance. Some of you might not understand but someday you'll look back on where you are now, and say boy it has gotten easier.

Have a good day,
Trish

[nataliekenyon89]

I am 17, my boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year and 8 months, and he had previously expressed his desire to join the military, specifically the marines. When he first told me this, I was both shocked and annoyed. I couldn't help but think, "why do guys always think they have to do this?" The situation calmed down, and was dormant for several months. Recently, however, he's brought it up again, talked to a recruiter, and took a test and passed with a great score. He says he's planning on signing the papers after this semester is over (he is a freshman in college; I'm a senior in high school). I was eased into this one much better, but for the first time I have started to contemplate what my future would be like. I am a top grade student and athlete, my life plans have never included anything military whatsoever; I've always planned to graduate college, have my own career, be successful, and then marry. Basically I see myself being an independent career woman after college. This new prospect scars the crap out of me. He says that after this semester he would go to boot camp, come home for 2 weeks, then do some sort of special training (he's interested in aviation, even scarier), then go to a college with navy rotc, and then be on active duty. One problem is that the college he's attending (the same one I'm going to attend, which is NMSU in Las Cruces, New Mexico) doesn't offer navy rotc, so he would go to UNM, over 200 miles away. Now, this isn't an extreme distance, but i'm afraid it will nonetheless distance us for 3 years. Sure we can visit eachother on holidays and breaks, but I'm afraid we'll just start making excuses on why one or the other can't drive down for the weekend. I'm sure I would be able to deal with the first 6 years. It's the idea that he would want to re-enlist that most scares me. Frankly I don't want and never have wanted the military life. I've live in this town all my life, so I wasn't brought up in an atmosphere where the family moved around from city to city. He was. I've always been deep rooted, and though I'm okay with the idea of moving to a new city and settling there, I am not okay with the idea of constantly moving, especially with kids. He wants to travel the world. I do too. He would like to live in a different country for a year or so. I wouldn't. We are very different people, with very different upbringings, but up until now we've been the perfect balance, one picking up where the other leaves off. I can't help but feel that we are quickly approaching judgement day. I probably seem naive, and that's probably because I'm completely unfamiliar with the military lifestyle, and am still in the process of talking to my close friends and going to my parents for advice. I love my boyfriend, but I feel guilty that I perhaps don't love him enough to even think about going through with this. I can hardly imagine saying we will end if he joins, but that is the conclusion that haunts my thoughts. He is the sweetest, and love me so much that I'm afraid that he might not do it if I tell him this. I'm sure that if I advocated against it hard enough, he probably wouldn't do it. Additionally, his mother is completely against it. I don't want to hold him back or prevent him from doing what he wants to do, but I'm not sure he wants to do it badly enough. He hasn't found a profession that he wants to pursue, so I think he's using his long-term interest in the military as a solution: a money solution and a career solution, to have experiences and to travel the world. He has not told me that he is doing it because all he wants is to serve his country and protect our freedom. I also think that now he has heaped an enormous responsibility on my shoulders now. I feel that he's the one that will be out there training and having life-changing experinces, while I get stuck with the short end of the stick: stuck waiting for him, restricted from dating anyone else, my career dreams put on hold. Can I do that to myself? Can I cement my love life right now, at 17, and tie myself only to him? After all, how could I abandon him after staying with him for a few more years? I think that if he and I went on like we are now, if we both graduated from college and got careers, we would probably be together for a long time, maybe even marry, but I generally don't like to make such plans, being only 17. However, with this new prospect, if he were to make this his career, how could I move from city to city and still have my own career? He has always looked much farther into the future than me; he gave me a ring, he's mentioned how it would be cool to live together when we're older. I generally feel uncomfortable when he talks about long term things like that. Sometimes I feel that I've already married him in a way; and I hate to admit that sometimes I even feel a little pressured, like thinking of breaking up with him is kinda out of the question. Don't get me wrong, he doesn't pressure me like that, this is all me. For any one that reads this whole thing, thank you, I appreciate any feedback, and I apologize for my ignorance, I really don't know much about the military at all.

[princezz8705]

my fiance is in the marine corps and is getting readi for his 2nd deployment to iraq on jan 26. hes gonna b gone 4 7 months. while hes gone me n his mom have 2 plan the wedding. we're gonna b gettin married oct 6. he went back down to base in nc, n im goin crzi without him. im goin down 4 his goin away n im not lookin foward 2 watchin him walk away from me n our daughter, onto that bus.

[SMIGSWIFE]

i'm new to this and im scared, but when i read The Average Military Wife/Girlfriend it brought tears to my eyes...it's nice to know that i'm not alone in this

[jvm09ecu]

Wow! I really like this. My boyfriend is in the army. Special Forces. Just got his Green Beret. We've been together for about 8 months now. For now, he'll be stationed here, but at any moment he may have to leave. It's the scariest thought. I never thought I would be dating a military man, but he makes me happier than anyone I've ever known.

[Parkerscutest]

I am also new at this. My boyfriend is a Marine and was deployed to Iraq on Jan 29th. He is going to be gone for 7 - 10 months. My best friend is also going through this with me because her boyfriend is with mine over in Iraq. It has been one of the hardest things I have ever had to do so far. He has been gone a little over a month. There are nites when it hurts so bad that he's not here that i cry myself to sleep. I prey every night for his safe return tho and I am not even really religious but it helps keep me thinking positively. I am only 18 years old, almost 19 and i didnt mean to fall in love with him, but you cant help who you fall for. He is an amazing guy and I am glad I met him. My best friends boyfriend who is also over there is one of my best friends and i prey for his safe return every night as well. Without those 2, things seem empty. Nights when things seem almost unbearable, i think about that day i get to be back in his arms again and it makes the waiting worth it. My worst fear is that he isnt going to come home but then i remember that he's superman!! He's invincible and he will come home to me. So all i can do is hope and prey. I thank god everyday that i have my friend casey in this with me, because without her, I would go insane. We keep eachother sane. We just take one day at a time since that is all we can do and wait for our supermen to come home. My heart goes out to all of you because its definately a hard situation to be in. Stay strong!

[Jasminehooah]

The poem about military wives and girlfriends was amazing! that poem truley touched me! I am a US Army combat medic gilfriend! I am just looking to talk to other women in my position! most people do not understand what it is like to be in a relationship like the ones me and all you other women are in! I am new to the forum world and thought i would give it a try. if there ae any other Army girlfriends especially combat medic girlfriends i would love to talk to you.

[Jasminehooah]

It makes me feel so not alone to know that there are so many other women in the situation. My boyfriend is an airborn combat medic. He has only been in the military since aug 2006. He has not been deployed yet but he is almost finished with training in texas at fort sam houston and then he is going to be stationed in north carolina with the 82nd airborn (i am not completly sure of the company). I am 18 and he has just recenty turned 21. i have known him for years and we were togther for a year before he left to the military. we seperated while he was in basic but realized we were not meant to be seperated. I did not intend on being with someone in the military but, i can't help it. I care about him to much. I am pretty new to this and if there is anyody that is in the same position with an army soldier or a texas or north carolina soldier or any branch i would love to talk to you. I do not have anyone that i know that has a military bf so i am alone.

[andrea0742]

My boyfriend is in the army.. i have known him for 5 mths and we were good friends and then we have been dating for a few weeks. i will admit it is really hard and i give them lots of credit for what they do for our american country. i dont know how american army wifes can do it. but i really give you guys credit as well. it must be hard to try keep a family together as one is risking their life out their. my boyfriend is soon to be going to iraq and im scared to death. i love him and i hope he will be ok. this is an hard situation and nobdoy ever seems to understand until their in it,it seesm like. i have some support my friend got married to a army guy. but she lives in another state.and she has been in the army but she isnt now cuz shes preganant. soi have her for good support. how do you guys support yourself on this situation,when you cant be with them etc..? tips would be helpful..

i was supos eto be with my boyfriend before he was being shipped to iraq but they are not giving him any leave time b4 he goes their. which is depressing. so i dont know how i can handle thsi sitaution as i cant be with him for a whole year. i really dont know when i can see him.i think next years xmas in 2008. it sounds its gonna be harder,but how can i deal with this.

i honesty dont want to loose him and i love him more then a friend alot. and i know he doe sin return.but how can i cope with thsi sitaution.. tips would be helpful.

[andrea0742]

It makes me feel so not alone to know that there are so many other women in the situation. My boyfriend is an airborn combat medic. He has only been in the military since aug 2006. He has not been deployed yet but he is almost finished with training in texas at fort sam houston and then he is going to be stationed in north carolina with the 82nd airborn (i am not completly sure of the company). I am 18 and he has just recenty turned 21. i have known him for years and we were togther for a year before he left to the military. we seperated while he was in basic but realized we were not meant to be seperated. I did not intend on being with someone in the military but, i can't help it. I care about him to much. I am pretty new to this and if there is anyody that is in the same position with an army soldier or a texas or north carolina soldier or any branch i would love to talk to you. I do not have anyone that i know that has a military bf so i am alone.


actually im in the same shoes as you.. so dont worry your not alone..my boyfriend was shipped off to germany and soon he is going to iraq for war and im scared very much. we have been good friends for 5 mths and now we have been dating for a few weeks .my boyfriend and i have had serious talks about thsi with our feelings and i try not to talk about my feelinsg alot about it.because hes more scared then i. i didnt intend to be with someone who was going into the army.but im happy im with him because he make sme happier then any guy i have ever been with and thats the postive that makes me wake up everymorning and he keeps contact with me eevery day to let me know that he is ok. if you need any support dont be afraid to email me and we can talk through it just to help us through it. because i cna truely understand hwo you feel alone,i feel the same until i foudn this forum. God bless and hope your solider makes it home safe as well.

[Ryansgirl021607]

hey so ya I just wanted to say I really hear ya my husband is a army feild medic aswell and life is so tough you never know what to exspect when it comes to the army so far we have been married almost 2 months and have seen him a total of a week and 5 days he has had his orders changed 3 times and it seems everytime I finally have a plan for the future the army changes their lind lol so ya I hear ya... where did your man do his AIT training? and when did he finish it lol?
~jess

[apinksunrise]

i feel yall on the missing stuff.... my fiancee is in iraq... but luickly my best friend's boyfriend is there too so we have a built in support system already. i miss him everyday and can't wait for r&r and pray to the lord that they dont get extended like he said they might....

[Jasminehooah]

actually im in the same shoes as you.. so dont worry your not alone..my boyfriend was shipped off to germany and soon he is going to iraq for war and im scared very much. we have been good friends for 5 mths and now we have been dating for a few weeks .my boyfriend and i have had serious talks about thsi with our feelings and i try not to talk about my feelinsg alot about it.because hes more scared then i. i didnt intend to be with someone who was going into the army.but im happy im with him because he make sme happier then any guy i have ever been with and thats the postive that makes me wake up everymorning and he keeps contact with me eevery day to let me know that he is ok. if you need any support dont be afraid to email me and we can talk through it just to help us through it. because i cna truely understand hwo you feel alone,i feel the same until i foudn this forum. God bless and hope your solider makes it home safe as well.

I am sorry to hear that your bf is in germany atleast i am lucky enough to have mine still in the us! but he might as well be that far away since i am a full time student and work every day that i am not in school. i have not yet been ale to see him. i find it weird that us gf's and wives have t stay positive for our soldiers. you would think it would be the other way around but in all actuality they are more scared than us! we are there support system! my bf also calls me atleast once a day to tell me he is ok. i am in the same position as you my bf is truley "the One"! he is the perfect guy for me although him being in the military i not so perfect! i just also say we are a fairytale/ story being written! and so are all of you and your soldiers! although i am alone i take pride in my country and my soldier and being a military gf! god bless all you women and all of your soldiers wether they are with you or over seas! they are fighting fo or freedom and we are luck to have such great men!

[Jasminehooah]

hey so ya I just wanted to say I really hear ya my husband is a army feild medic aswell and life is so tough you never know what to exspect when it comes to the army so far we have been married almost 2 months and have seen him a total of a week and 5 days he has had his orders changed 3 times and it seems everytime I finally have a plan for the future the army changes their lind lol so ya I hear ya... where did your man do his AIT training? and when did he finish it lol?
~jess

it is so great to hear from another person with their soldier in the same field as mine! is he over seas or stil in the US? is he airborn or not? my bf is still doing AIT in Texas at fort sam houston! he graduates april 30th then he is off to airborn school in georgia. Then he is supposed to be stationed in NC with the 82nd airborn. i would love to talk to you more to see what the combat medic gf/ wife life is like and et any information or advice you can offer me! Goodluck with your husband! and godbless!

[apinksunrise]

I am sorry to hear that your bf is in germany atleast i am lucky enough to have mine still in the us! but he might as well be that far away since i am a full time student and work every day that i am not in school. i have not yet been ale to see him. i find it weird that us gf's and wives have t stay positive for our soldiers. you would think it would be the other way around but in all actuality they are more scared than us! we are there support system! my bf also calls me atleast once a day to tell me he is ok. i am in the same position as you my bf is truley "the One"! he is the perfect guy for me although him being in the military i not so perfect! i just also say we are a fairytale/ story being written! and so are all of you and your soldiers! although i am alone i take pride in my country and my soldier and being a military gf! god bless all you women and all of your soldiers wether they are with you or over seas! they are fighting fo or freedom and we are luck to have such great men!

aww that's so good. my fiancee tries to call me everyday, or at least get online to let me know he's ok... but it's still hard. and i still miss him more and more everyday... but the missing him will make him coming home sooooo much better.

[Jasminehooah]

aww that's so good. my fiancee tries to call me everyday, or at least get online to let me know he's ok... but it's still hard. and i still miss him more and more everyday... but the missing him will make him coming home sooooo much better.

i hella know what your talking about! the more i miss him the greater it is going to be when i finally do get to see him again! :)

[Bubbiesdeployed]

Hi, My names Amber

I just said my goodbyes to my boyfriend he got deployed to Africa. :(
I think it was the hardest couple hours of my life.. I had to wake up at 1am to make sure i was there with him when he got on the bus then I just had to sit and watch him leave. I felt so helpless. It almost felt as if it would have been easier if i wasn't there with him when he had to leave. His Gunny had to pull him away. Hes going to be gone for almost as long as we have been together. 5 months thats if all goes well..

[apinksunrise]

5 months... that's nothin... by time rob comes home not counting leave he will have been gone a year... it's hard... and they're talking that he might get extended... which is depressing... because we're planning the wedding for march 15, 2008... and if he gets extended he won't even be home until april 2008 which would suck bad...

Hi, My names Amber

I just said my goodbyes to my boyfriend he got deployed to Africa. :(
I think it was the hardest couple hours of my life.. I had to wake up at 1am to make sure i was there with him when he got on the bus then I just had to sit and watch him leave. I felt so helpless. It almost felt as if it would have been easier if i wasn't there with him when he had to leave. His Gunny had to pull him away. Hes going to be gone for almost as long as we have been together. 5 months thats if all goes well..

[Bubbiesdeployed]

I know 5 months isn't much and there are lots of other women with loved ones out much longer. I have other friends and family members that are deployed but his seems much harder before we could only talk on the phone and over the computer but we haven't ever went more that a day without talking for atleast a couple minutes. While we is on his way there i don't think i will be able to talk with him and it scares me not that we are falling out of love just that i have no idea what he is doing or how he is doing.
I hope that your wedding goes as planned how long is Rob in for?
My boyfriend left a note on my bed one day that said. "Baby, If we get through this I will marry you." It was cute but this is his first deployment and probably not his last. Lots of people don't think we will make it so i hope we can prove them wrong.

[apinksunrise]

rob wants to go career. he's supposed to come home in october... but they are talkin that they might get extended.... which would suck.... another 6 months without him. but he gets to come home for r&r in july or august... not sure exactly when yet... so i'll get 2 weeks with him.

[Bubbiesdeployed]

so is it really as difficult as i expect it to be when my boyfriend goes off to basic training in three weeks? we've been together for about six months now and have been friends for six years. i love him more than anything and hate to see him leave but i know he has his heart set on going to the airforce. we talk about getting married down the road after i start college and he gets settled into his job but it just seems SO far away. he isn't worried at all..and i'm not worried either, i trust him completely..but the separation is going to be so difficult, especially since i'm so used to being able to see him pretty much all the time. how do i go from with him all the time...to seeing him every couple of months?


It will be hard, but if you love and trust each other as much as you say, you should be able to make it though being away but still feeling in love sometimes isn't easy but you just have to remember what it feels like when you do see him and hold on to that. I hate being away from Andrew but it only makes the times i do see him that much sweeter. I wish you well.

[apinksunrise]

i miss rob...
it's getting harder and harder for him to get online or call me...
because of weather and whatnot and everthing else over there.
this sucks. :(
i get to hear from him like once a week now :(

[Bubbiesdeployed]

i miss rob...
it's getting harder and harder for him to get online or call me...
because of weather and whatnot and everthing else over there.
this sucks. :(
i get to hear from him like once a week now :(



Well at least you know why he can't call its defiantly not because he doesn't want too. I'm sure he misses you just as much as you are missing him. It probably bothers him that he can't call and talk to you and he lives for the moments that he can.

[apinksunrise]

yea it just sucks because he went from just 2 weeks ago being able to call me for hours... to now only being able to call for like 15 minutes every few days.... it's getting bad there and that sucks...

[Bubbiesdeployed]

yea it just sucks because he went from just 2 weeks ago being able to call me for hours... to now only being able to call for like 15 minutes every few days.... it's getting bad there and that sucks...



Yep andrew and I use to talk for 5 hours straight some nights but now he doesn't even call really maybe once a week, but its okay cuz i still get emails and stuff Its not like we can't talk at all.

[apinksunrise]

i get a few emails a day if i'm lucky... but hardly any calls lately... he tried to call me at work earlier but the line was busy :(

[Bubbiesdeployed]

Oh no! I hate it when that happens :(

[apinksunrise]

so he asked me today if i will marry him in august when he's home on leave.... :)

[Bubbiesdeployed]

Yay! that is awesome!! And I am assuming you said yes!! lol so what kind of wedding do you want?

[apinksunrise]

well if we do it in august i wont be able to have the wedding that i want... but we dont even know if we'll be able to then because of some other legal stuff we are both dealing with with ours exs.... it kind of sucks...
but i think we're leaning more towards when he comes home in january... i told him that if it's possible we can in august... but how things are going right now it doesnt look like it will be possible... but we'll see.

[Bubbiesdeployed]

well if we do it in august i wont be able to have the wedding that i want... but we dont even know if we'll be able to then because of some other legal stuff we are both dealing with with ours exs.... it kind of sucks...
but i think we're leaning more towards when he comes home in january... i told him that if it's possible we can in august... but how things are going right now it doesnt look like it will be possible... but we'll see.


Uh ohs, so you are willing to give up your "dream wedding" to get married to him this August?

[apinksunrise]

yes i am... but i want an actual wedding... if we did it in august it would just be jp... and sorry but been there done that.... it sucks...
but i don't even know if we'll be able to in august...

[Bubbiesdeployed]

Yikes well I really hope that you get the wedding that you have always wanted and I am sure you deserve. Even if its later you can just be that more sure it is right.

[jasonsnavyprincess]

wow that is really true. i have known my boyfriend for 4 years. we met after he graduated high school before he joined the navy. we started dating a year ago after he joined and then he left 2 months later for iraq. that was the hardest thing ever. but i think what is worse is not knowing. not knowing where he is or when hes coming home or if i'm gonna get that horrible phone call. i can't wait till he comes home.

[Bubbiesdeployed]

wow that is really true. i have known my boyfriend for 4 years. we met after he graduated high school before he joined the navy. we started dating a year ago after he joined and then he left 2 months later for iraq. that was the hardest thing ever. but i think what is worse is not knowing. not knowing where he is or when hes coming home or if i'm gonna get that horrible phone call. i can't wait till he comes home.


How often do you get to talk to him?

[andimay]

My boyfriend joined the Air Force and is leaving in july for boot camp...its been hard already, I can't imagine spending a day with out him. Just wondering if you had any advice for me on how to deal or cope with him leaving. I've been trying to be strong and not cry in front of him. I'm going to miss him sooo much, but I'm afraid he'll get discouraged if I show how sad I am in front of him. but anyway, please get back to me. a_tula_4@hotmail.com thanks, andi

[apinksunrise]

so i'm seriously gonna marry him in august if its possible. i don't care anymore.

[Bubbiesdeployed]

What happened? Nothing or lol you just got to excited/impatient!:p

[Bubbiesdeployed]

My boyfriend joined the Air Force and is leaving in july for boot camp...its been hard already, I can't imagine spending a day with out him. Just wondering if you had any advice for me on how to deal or cope with him leaving. I've been trying to be strong and not cry in front of him. I'm going to miss him sooo much, but I'm afraid he'll get discouraged if I show how sad I am in front of him. but anyway, please get back to me. a_tula_4@hotmail.com thanks, andi


Lots of friends and family support, keep yourself busy, make little gifts and send him.. and July is still a ways away! spend lots of time with him while you can!!!!:cruising:

[apinksunrise]

What happened? Nothing or lol you just got to excited/impatient!:p
my family is just getting to me... so i'm done worrying about trying to make everyone else happy and i'm gonna make me happy for once....
and plus... he's already a good dad to my son!

[Bubbiesdeployed]

my family is just getting to me... so i'm done worrying about trying to make everyone else happy and i'm gonna make me happy for once....
and plus... he's already a good dad to my son!


Thats good it is what you want and how it makes you feel anyway! Thats awesome that he is a good daddy already =] Sometimes its hard to find a guy that would take on a responsibily like a child.

[apinksunrise]

so... i found a place down in killeen.... and i'm moving in a couple weeks.... i'm so excited... now i really cant wait for him to come home because we'll have our own place :)

[Bubbiesdeployed]

=D yay, I wish i had my own place. Haha I wouldn't make it on my own yet! Is your house or apartment whatever, is it cute??!

[apinksunrise]

yea it's a cute lil 2 bedroom apartment... simple for now... since he wants to get base housing after we get married anyways...

[inlovewithasoldier12806]

hey. my family doesnt support me and my boyfriend staying together. he's graduating from basic training on friday and im going down to see him. its a surprise for him though....he has no idea im going...but i moved out of my house so id be able to go. he talks about getting married, but im scared bcuz im only 17.

[inlovewithasoldier12806]

yea it's a cute lil 2 bedroom apartment... simple for now... since he wants to get base housing after we get married anyways...
hey. what are the qualifications for living off of base? me and ron are interested in doing that.

please email me at twrlng@yahoo.com

thanks

cathleen & ron

[Bubbiesdeployed]

hey. my family doesnt support me and my boyfriend staying together. he's graduating from basic training on friday and im going down to see him. its a surprise for him though....he has no idea im going...but i moved out of my house so id be able to go. he talks about getting married, but im scared bcuz im only 17.



At 17 I think your parents still have to be agreed to your getting married, How long have you been together? You don't want to rush things... But i am happy for you if you have thought about this a great deal and Understand everything that will be happening.

[apinksunrise]

for living off base?
for living on base you have to be married.... he could live on base without and you could live off base if you're not married... but for you to live on base you have to be married to him...

[caramichelle31]

So we took my boyfriend down to his hotel yesterday for MEPS and he flys out to basic training tomorrow in san antonio for the air force. Yesterday was my last day to see him and now today is my last day to talk to him for 7 weeks. How the hell do you get through this part because it feels like someone is slowly stabbing a knife into me and twisting and turning. Im 18, a month away from graduating and now the stress of him being gone is on my plate. I love him more than anything and we plan on getting married...someday, hopefully not TOO long down the road but when does the strong military girlfriend personality kick in? Any and all advice would be great because I keep breaking down.

[Bubbiesdeployed]

So we took my boyfriend down to his hotel yesterday for MEPS and he flys out to basic training tomorrow in san antonio for the air force. Yesterday was my last day to see him and now today is my last day to talk to him for 7 weeks. How the hell do you get through this part because it feels like someone is slowly stabbing a knife into me and twisting and turning. Im 18, a month away from graduating and now the stress of him being gone is on my plate. I love him more than anything and we plan on getting married...someday, hopefully not TOO long down the road but when does the strong military girlfriend personality kick in? Any and all advice would be great because I keep breaking down.





I never really went though this part of being a Military girlfriend. My Boyfriend have always already been in...You can send letters and I am sure he will appreciate them. It will be tough, I have never had to go without talking to my boyfriend for more than 5 days. He is currently deployed and I know i will have times I can't talk with him. But you have a Long road ahead of you and you can get though it. If you have lots of friend and family support it will be easier. You have to keep yourself busy get some things done that you wouldn't have gotten done when he was home..
You have to be strong but crying does help..So don't just try not to cry it will make it that much worse.. Thats what i tried to do the first couple weeks but it just feels like it builds and builds and i go crazy..so just let it out don't hold it in. Don't forget to write him. They need alot of support when they are away.. this is something he has to do now. He is committed and you need to show him you understand and are goin to try to stay strong for him.

I hope this helps! I know I won't be the only one to reply tho! =]

[apinksunrise]

I never really went though this part of being a Military girlfriend. My Boyfriend have always already been in...You can send letters and I am sure he will appreciate them. It will be tough, I have never had to go without talking to my boyfriend for more than 5 days. He is currently deployed and I know i will have times I can't talk with him. But you have a Long road ahead of you and you can get though it. If you have lots of friend and family support it will be easier. You have to keep yourself busy get some things done that you wouldn't have gotten done when he was home..
You have to be strong but crying does help..So don't just try not to cry it will make it that much worse.. Thats what i tried to do the first couple weeks but it just feels like it builds and builds and i go crazy..so just let it out don't hold it in. Don't forget to write him. They need alot of support when they are away.. this is something he has to do now. He is committed and you need to show him you understand and are goin to try to stay strong for him.

I hope this helps! I know I won't be the only one to reply tho! =]
definitely write him a lot.... he might not be able to write back much if at all... but write him as much as you can.... and yes crying does help... it doesn't mean you're weak or anything... it just means you care... i cry myself to sleep everynight... and it's just because i love him, and i care about him and want him to be safe.

it is hard though... i took up crocheting it helps pass the time.... in the middle of a baby blanket right now :)

[andrea0742]

So we took my boyfriend down to his hotel yesterday for MEPS and he flys out to basic training tomorrow in san antonio for the air force. Yesterday was my last day to see him and now today is my last day to talk to him for 7 weeks. How the hell do you get through this part because it feels like someone is slowly stabbing a knife into me and twisting and turning. Im 18, a month away from graduating and now the stress of him being gone is on my plate. I love him more than anything and we plan on getting married...someday, hopefully not TOO long down the road but when does the strong military girlfriend personality kick in? Any and all advice would be great because I keep breaking down.



I Can completely understand what your feeling. I am in the same postion as you so Girl you are so NOT alone. i was good friends with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have been dating for 2 months now. I Just turned 18 in beginng of April and im graduting in 2-3weeks. what really helps is crying,i like to sit outside and cry what really helps along with that. is what is so wonderful that special person can see the same sun or moon as you and smell the same scent outside as you. it helps because u know hes out their somewhere and he doesnt seem that far because when yourside your know your halfway their. Being a military girlfriend does not kick it,Just like military guys are trained.we train along with them with our strengths and as we hold on and the military tests our strenghths it shows how much we love our men as we hold on for them. we are their motivation to do well and come home too. i know its hard being the brave one,because it does have its hardest times.but hey they dont call us military wifes/girlfriends for nothing. to me it means we Are strong! :) it all takes times,write,email him and make creative thinsg for him like a scarpbook about you and drawings or make a pillow case or blanket for him.. just stuff that helps him and he can do the same for you. like give ua stuffs animal for u to sleep with etc. trust me it will all help and everything will pull everything through. Love is the greatest power and if u really love him,you would stand through every challenge within it gives you.
I wish you luck! im here if u need to chat,just message me.:oink:

[caramichelle31]

I Can completely understand what your feeling. I am in the same postion as you so Girl you are so NOT alone. i was good friends with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have been dating for 2 months now. I Just turned 18 in beginng of April and im graduting in 2-3weeks. what really helps is crying,i like to sit outside and cry what really helps along with that. is what is so wonderful that special person can see the same sun or moon as you and smell the same scent outside as you. it helps because u know hes out their somewhere and he doesnt seem that far because when yourside your know your halfway their. Being a military girlfriend does not kick it,Just like military guys are trained.we train along with them with our strengths and as we hold on and the military tests our strenghths it shows how much we love our men as we hold on for them. we are their motivation to do well and come home too. i know its hard being the brave one,because it does have its hardest times.but hey they dont call us military wifes/girlfriends for nothing. to me it means we Are strong! :) it all takes times,write,email him and make creative thinsg for him like a scarpbook about you and drawings or make a pillow case or blanket for him.. just stuff that helps him and he can do the same for you. like give ua stuffs animal for u to sleep with etc. trust me it will all help and everything will pull everything through. Love is the greatest power and if u really love him,you would stand through every challenge within it gives you.
I wish you luck! im here if u need to chat,just message me.:oink:
Oh trust me, I've cried...atleast once if not three or four times each day since he's been gone. I'm already counting down the days until I get to see him. I'm going out to Texas in June to see him graduate and thankfully he gets liberty that weekend! I can't wait...44 more days. I'm sure it will get easier after that while he is in tech school cuz then i atleast get to talk to him daily. I'm already working on letters..I'm just waiting on him to call his family with an address. I think I'm what I'm going to do is send him a different picture of us with every letter that I send. Hopefully that will keep his spirits up. I've been sleeping with a sweatshirt that smells like him everynight...I know that sounds corny but it really does help. It's going to be a LONG and rough 7 weeks but hey...almost one week down i guess. Thanks for the advice! I'm sure I will have more comments over the next couple of weeks though so be ready! :)

[andrea0742]

Oh trust me, I've cried...atleast once if not three or four times each day since he's been gone. I'm already counting down the days until I get to see him. I'm going out to Texas in June to see him graduate and thankfully he gets liberty that weekend! I can't wait...44 more days. I'm sure it will get easier after that while he is in tech school cuz then i atleast get to talk to him daily. I'm already working on letters..I'm just waiting on him to call his family with an address. I think I'm what I'm going to do is send him a different picture of us with every letter that I send. Hopefully that will keep his spirits up. I've been sleeping with a sweatshirt that smells like him everynight...I know that sounds corny but it really does help. It's going to be a LONG and rough 7 weeks but hey...almost one week down i guess. Thanks for the advice! I'm sure I will have more comments over the next couple of weeks though so be ready! :)



yea,thats good you have foudn your comfort zones about how to keep strong and thats one thing that is important for us military girlfriends and wifes have to do.Geesh our men are stronger then us to join . i could never join. Your lucky you get to see him very soon.I sadly have until christmas or Oct.2008 until i see my guy. we have not kissed yet either.because he asked me out when he got shipped off. we have been close friends for 2 years. but i guess my story is complicated then yours. Just to give you a tip,what would any guy that is far away from their women,they love it when they spray their scent of her perfume on their letters. try that and it will make him feel better.Its not corny you love to smell his sweater,trust me i use to do that with my old boyfriends.i dont really have anything from my boyfriend,just a little bunny rabbit. but he is shipping a big box of stuff he got for me,that will help me. which i will get soon.im excited. he already got mine and mine helps him,i love writing poetry and i have been writing for 5 years and last year i had one published nationwide.so he always hangs my poems on hsi wall by my pictures. how long is your guy planning on staying it it? is he planning on doing it as a career? well sorry to make this kinda short. but got to go so ttyl
good luck!:flying:

[apinksunrise]

i miss rob so much today...
but i got his dogtags yesterday.... and haven't taken them off since i got the mail :) i was so happy....

[andrea0742]

thats awesome. :) i am ready for monday its been 7-8 days since i have NOT talk to kevin. i miss hearing from him and i hope to get my box of surprises.

[Bubbiesdeployed]

i miss rob so much today...
but i got his dogtags yesterday.... and haven't taken them off since i got the mail :) i was so happy....



I hardly ever take Andrews dog tags off.. lol

[apinksunrise]

I hardly ever take Andrews dog tags off.. lol
yea i have definitely not taken them off at all.... they have started making fun of me at work for it....

[Bubbiesdeployed]

yea i have definitely not taken them off at all.... they have started making fun of me at work for it....


At school all the people say that No one has a chance with me unless they are a Marine. :p It makes me laugh.

[andrea0742]

i wish i could relate to you guys again.. :( *sniffles*

[Bubbiesdeployed]

=[ Its okay...You will work things out. I lub you!! <3

[andrea0742]

hehe im talking to you right now..awww..u care about me..:) i feel loved. pinksunrise.. as u dont know and amber does. Kevin broke up with me after the 9 days of not talking to him because he was shipped off to training and was not near anything to contact me. So when he contacted me he borke up with me because hes under stress and he didnt even want to break up with me.so im confused. :( and very heartbroken about it.so just to let you know because u may be confused.thanks for trying to cheer me up amber :)*hugs*

[apinksunrise]

awww i'm so sorry....
my name is felicia btw :) cause i don't know if i ever told you...
but you know... if he loves you it'll work out. i believe fully in everything happens for a reason... the hard time sjust make the relationship stronger and everything will happen as it is meant to.

[andrea0742]

Well,i thought he truely loved me etc..but it turned to be all lies. I wish i was never his friend that long then dated him etc.. Its completely over now. he switched all his words around and i feel like dirt now. its a long story!
My name is Andrea if u didnt know..
i dont understand after a realtionship is over why does the guy wants to be friend sbut anyways he end sup loosing contact with u anyway? when u did no harm to them.. so werid!

[ashley_rascoe]

Hey everyone im new here....My boyfriend joined the air force and leaves August 21st of 2007! Yeah so I cant wait to start my life w/him....I love him soooo much...

[caramichelle31]

Hey everyone im new here....My boyfriend joined the air force and leaves August 21st of 2007! Yeah so I cant wait to start my life w/him....I love him soooo much...
well ashley im not goin to lie to you its not easy at all, my boyfriend is in basic right now. but if you really do love him you will be fine. I know it will be worth the wait in the end. I actually just got a phone call from him today! I couldn't believe it, he must have done something right to be awarded a one minute phone call. It was just SO good to hear his voice. Just remember that its not easy on them either. My man was in tears on the phone today tellin me how much he missed me and loved me. So when it comes your time to go through this just always remember that he feels the same way. It will make things much more reassuring. Good luck with it though! I hope everything works out for yall.

[cuongnet]

oh, good job!

[yeknom]

i am a boy, but i think that wife/girlfriends of a military are the strongers person in the country.. they sometimes have to take care of hers families while her husband is in another country..

i take off my hat to u!

[gabriela_z2]

what r u say.,.,.don't know.,.,.
sorrrryyyyyyyy

[shaunlaker]

well i can understand,i was away frm my wife for months but ithink that hepled us to make our bonds stronger.

[shaunlaker]

well i can understand,i was away frm my wife for months but ithink that hepled us to make our bonds stronger.

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[GlamaMami]

hi,
im new to the site. I'm a girlfriend to a air force recruit. He has been gone two weeks for boot camp. 7 yrs dealing and a gorgeous 4yr old son together. Currently i'm home schooling him til august and working. It hasn't been rough for me vut my son really misses his dad. They are like twins. We aren't on the best of terms currently but we work together to raise our son. He graduate
in july and i hope to see some maturity within him. The peacefulness round the house is nice but the extra errands and 24-7 very little me time gets me sometime. Hope to meet others who can relate.


XOXO,
Glama Mami

[cec337]

hi, i'm new to this site & to online forums in general. first off a little background about me - i am a full-time college student at the university of florida (go gators!) while my boyfriend of 5 years has recently joined the army. our relationship has never been typical from the start, and in the beginning, we were long distance for about 2 years. i'd say it's safe to say that we've run the gamut of relationship obstacles, from long distance, to breaking up, to going off to college, to family problems, & etc. and i can honestly say that no one, not even ourselves, could have predicted us to make it this far having endured so many challenges. but it's what made our relationship much stronger. we've endured long distance, and then going to the same high school, babysitting my half-brother, family drama of all kinds from both sides, and me going off to college. this step in the army now seems to be another obstacle, but i also know that it is going to be one of the more dramatic changes in our relationship. i'm looking for support because even though a few of my best friends are in serious relationships, none of them have been through similar challenges or have military boyfriends.

my boyfriend recently graduated boot camp and is now at AIT. i miss him very much. i get frustrated lately because i wish i could talk to him more. i know that he's in a new situation with new roommates and that he's a private person so that may be attributable to why he sounds a little distant or different sometimes. i have 3-4 semesters left till i get my bachelor's and i'm very stressed for the ensuing time because i will be having to study A LOT. in addition to studying and stressing for schoolwork, there is also the novelty of the army situation with my boyfriend to be handled, including the looming possibility that he may have to be deployed to iraq. i'm looking for support and am also going to try to be a helping hand for others in tight spots.

[rommelsbrat]

I am new to this site too. I am married to wonderful man in the Navy. He's got about 8 or 9 years left. Our daughter is 10 and our son is now 8 months old. He was in Cuba for 6 months, came home in May of '07, deployed in Sept of '07, and came home in April of 08. He is getting ready to deploy again. He will miss our son's first birthday. Along with all the holidays that fall between September and April again. But it's something I have learned to adjust too. I don't like it but I deal with it.:)
We now live in North Carolina. I can't complain it kind of reminds me of my hometown of San Diego with the beach being so close.
If you want to chat just let me know. After all this is to make new friends...right?

[mr.Anderson]

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