Am I ready for kids?

[imamommytoanangelinheaven]

Hi, I'm Briana. I'm 17 years old.. Haha, I sound kinda like a recorder or something... wow, kinda lame...But anyways.. Ive been in love with kids since I was younger, around 13-14... When my brother was little, I helped mom with him a lot. Hes a few years younger than I am. Hes 14 and I'm 17, hes almost 4 years younger than me. 3 years n a few months to be exact. I loved playing with him. haha. Than growing up, I always babysat and helped my aunts and uncles take care of their children. Now that I'm growing up, I think I'm ready to have my own kids.. I was pregnant last year. I had a miscariage at 13 weeks on August 26th 05. I shouldve had my angel on March 28th of this year. I know I'm still pretty young... But, My parents are behind me 100%. Mom said shes ready to have another kid in the house. She's in love with babies. My friend just had a baby in febuary. Zachary, which is his name, is a little over a month old. He's my angel. I help her out all the time with him. I have a boyfriend whom I've known pretty much my whole life... We've been talkin about having children... and getting married lately... He's 20. He'll be 21, 6 days before I'll be 18 this year in decemeber. I'm just looking for other peoples opinion... I'm still in highschool, but im homeschooled... He's going to college and hes coming home on weekends... and is going to get a good job so that he can help support us... And I'll also be looking for a job, as I have been. I know I can take care of a kid... I know that I'm mentally ready and physically ready.... I just want more emotionally suport.. So that I know for sure this is what I want to do..
Any opinions?

Thanks,
Briana:D

[jsonsglr_fiddles]

That sounds so great! U have found the love of your life and u are all ready to leave home and be a wife and mother. U r preparing urself to change drastically for the better. Ur life will now revolve around the man that u have given u r heart to. No BREAKS! Marriage isn't just a weekend thing. And if u r planning to do it right it is FOREVER! I am sure u r pleased that u r guy dosent have to think twice about whether or not u r the one who's face he will see when he thinks about love. Whether or not he wants to hold u r hand when u r both 90 and all wrinkly!!! LOL Also u r ready to be a homemaker to cook meals, clean up, and all of the other things Moms do around the house. U and ur man have been everywhere together and have lots of memories and experiances to boast. u r relationship is strong and there r few complications. EMOTIONALY= u will have to be the wife of the home not both husband and wife and not just gf anymore.
Physically= U r job becomes taking care of him washing clothes, dishes, mopping the floor, making the bed cleaning the bathroom and all the other stuff that has to be done. He is a student and the Man of the house. WIth the job. FINANCIALY= Where r y'all living? AND he's ok with living with u r parents, how long, what health r u r parents in? BILLS r they taken care of? DO u know how much the average birth costs? A c- seciton, if there are complications. I dont know either. Heres my thing..................................:)

In November I started talking to this guy jason on yahoo. I had just broken up a former relationship a few months earlier. The previous one lasted 9 mths. If u would like to know why I ended it u can ask me but I am not gonna go in to that on this post. J (jason) and I hit it off! I learned that he lived about 24 miles away in Summerville and then we continued talking. He later asked me if I would like to go see a movie with him and I accepted. He and I kept hanging out for a few weeks and then he asked me if I would like to come home with him one night after a movie. BAD IDEA!!!!;) I am joking and not! As u can imagine what just about always happens next. J was the first guy I have had an intimate relationship with that I didnt sleep with the first night I met him. (THAT MEANS A LOT TRUST ME!!!!):) I thought he would be eager to take me home the next morning but wasn't he turned over and smiled and asked me if I would like to take a shower before, with or after him. I thought 4 a second and then said that I would like to join him! What an experiance (yep my first shower with a guy) By then I knew I was hooked. He wasnt being an asshole like the rest of them the morning after. Ok so now theres the nitty gritty well back to the point, I am in love with J and would have his kid today if I could!!;) I am 19, my body is definently ready for child bearing, I am ready to put everything aside .....wait I have class, homework, grades, I really want to pass this semester. Third time taking the class. I have a job yeah, 1 point for me .......oh wait I am part time, no maternity leave. What if I am put on bedrest. Yes, that dosent matter! J can take care of the financial side of things I am the pregnant one to much stress! I'm sure he will be ok with that! My car payment, the rent, the groceries, his car payment, insurance, doctor bills, medicine, occasional speeding tickets (why did i have to get a bad boy!!!), that bike we wanna buy, the phone bill like 198 a month, (is that normal)? New (fat) maternity clothes, electric bill, water bill, yeah he can do that he is full time makes lots of money we'll be ok. I want to be a mother asap which is after we get married cause I wanna do it right! (well @ least half right) and that will be after school cause i wanna be able to not have my nose in a book when he wants to give me eskimo kisses! LOL We'll be totally ready then and only then. LET ME STRESS TO U THE FACT THAT I WANNA BE A MOMMY I HAVE TO DAILY TALK MYSELF OUT OF GOING AHEAD AND STARTING MY FAMILY NOW!!!! DAILY!!! So i get where u r coming from and I hope u understood and gathered some info from this reply

[prncessbaby]

I think its very cool that u want to be a momy because most ppl think that when u have kids u have to give up every thing and u don't u show how can i say it strong and power i guess that is the word im not sure but anyway i hope u have plenty of kids one day k

[narcissm]

dont be stupid...dont have kids at 17 you nutcase...my friend did and she has practically ruined her life...she cant go out or anything and everyone was very dissapointed.

/x

[chic*chica908]

I think it's great that you want to be a mom too...I love kids, and I know that they're hard work, but they're worth it no matter what you have to give up, like going out to party's and all that, kids are all worth it. I totally think you should go for it, but wait at least a little bit longer...I mean you'll need to open and close a lot of things, checking accounts, bills, get a little bit financially stable, I mean, you want your child to have the best he or she can right? I'm not sure if this is what you'll be doing or not, but what about when your guy comes back from college, aren't you guys gonna need a place to stay? I want to say that I know what you mean....but look at it this way...wait a little longer and it'll all be worth the wait.

[valdes_5]

ok first of all dont have a child at 17 , you would totally ruin your life , my sister is , 25 , and she regrets even having kids , not in a mean way , but she cant do anything , when she wants to go out to the lounge she cant because she has to take care of her kids , i now it will be really awesome to have a family , but ,first get a good job , then spoil your self rotten , after when your about 30 you can have a beautiful family and lots of money so that you can also spoil your wonderful kids and they can grow up and have a great life


sincerely a girl with a great life and experienced mom and sista

[Bubbiesdeployed]

I love the fact that I was blessed with TONS of neices and nephews, lots of sisters to help me out with that one. You sound ready..as in you know everything you are suppose to do to take care of the child but what about the child in you? Don't give up on her too easy. Just because you feel ready to take this next step. My sister gave me the bit of advice that I should never have a child until I could take care of it on my own if my husband left me. She is in her twenties and has 2 kids she is goin to school and to college and she isn't completely happy I think sometimes she would like to leave but because she knows she could never support herself and the two youngins she can't. I guess... Are you Financially ready? Having kids isn't only.. Mentally and emotionally ready but will you be able to provide for a child if all the expenses were to fall in your hands. You wouldn't want your child to have a bad childhood atleast i know i want to be able to fully support my children.

I too am 17 goin to be 18 this year my boyfriend will be 21 in less than a month after I become 18...we have agreed that children should come after we think we have done and seen enough.. College is a completely different sport compared to Highschool. Many new things to experience..that may not always be accepting of a little child. You definatly limit yourself when you have a child.. You cannot work for a while before and after the child so there is no income there most of the time so you would only have one Income. (not counting your lovely mother that is supporting your decision.)

There are alot of things to think about when bringing a child into the world, not just you the dad and your family but the little child too! He or she may love you unconditionally but they are still goin to be a handful and sometime you won't feel the love from them at all.
I hope you come to a decision, or if you already have i wish you luck!;)

[goodman]

Hi, I'm Briana. I'm 17 years old.. Haha, I sound kinda like a recorder or something... wow, kinda lame...But anyways.. Ive been in love with kids since I was younger, around 13-14... When my brother was little, I helped mom with him a lot. Hes a few years younger than I am. Hes 14 and I'm 17, hes almost 4 years younger than me. 3 years n a few months to be exact. I loved playing with him. haha. Than growing up, I always babysat and helped my aunts and uncles take care of their children. Now that I'm growing up, I think I'm ready to have my own kids.. I was pregnant last year. I had a miscariage at 13 weeks on August 26th 05. I shouldve had my angel on March 28th of this year. I know I'm still pretty young... But, My parents are behind me 100%. Mom said shes ready to have another kid in the house. She's in love with babies. My friend just had a baby in febuary. Zachary, which is his name, is a little over a month old. He's my angel. I help her out all the time with him. I have a boyfriend whom I've known pretty much my whole life... We've been talkin about having children... and getting married lately... He's 20. He'll be 21, 6 days before I'll be 18 this year in decemeber. I'm just looking for other peoples opinion... I'm still in highschool, but im homeschooled... He's going to college and hes coming home on weekends... and is going to get a good job so that he can help support us... And I'll also be looking for a job, as I have been. I know I can take care of a kid... I know that I'm mentally ready and physically ready.... I just want more emotionally suport.. So that I know for sure this is what I want to do..
Any opinions?

Thanks,
Briana:D

I think it's great that you love and want to have babys, but I think you are to young for this. You have to realize that you're all life will change when he comes. If you're not married and you don't have the fathers child near you every time will be hard. In one word You are to young.

[justme88]

ok im 17 also and im not going to tell you not to have a baby if thats what you wont but i am going to tell you to 2nd think things befor you do it. i have a friend that has 11mounth old baby and her boyfriend left andshe or her baby has seen him since.she love her baby to death but maybe if she had whated a littel longer things would be easyer!!!!!!!!!!! for her her baby and everyone that loves her!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i hope that i have helped you in your problem but most of all i hope you 2nd think everything.......:fishy:

[gabriela_z2]

why are u waiting ,if you are ready for the child then
Make sure first you choose your life partner
then marriage after it you want so then do ,
for it i give you advice of dating

ALLTHE BEST

[steamtrain12]

No your not

[Zia Queen]

Its very good thing that you are thinking a well planned future of both of your families and our bf. Who doesn't love kids :)
But I think you should finish your college studies and get a nice, not that hard job to support your families too. Getting married is very important decision in life. You have to prepare everything and think of plan for the next 5 years at least on how it will move on.
But..aaarg!.., Get marry girl, its good to have kids in early 20s and thats how it goes in life.


Good luck

[stevekelly]

At least they learn something which is better than nothing.
I know this is one area where there might be some difficulty in teaching but keeping in mind the fact that this is what everybody has and all animals partake in it, the subject becomes comprehensible.

[Quory]

Well are you stable enough to have a child?
Financially, emotionally and physically....
All aspect...;) ;)

motherhood (http://www.valuematernity.com)

[SinVega]

I would recommend that you wait. You've got plenty of time to have kids. Graduate high school, go to college or start working, get married and get settled down before having kids. Life is expensive and it's even more expensive with kids.

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