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victoria4
12-20-2006, 07:59 AM
Ok so I have met someone. and we’ve only been seeing each other about 2 weeks. Almost seeing each other every day. It’s been incredible to say the least! I found out he is seeing someone else or was... for about a year. And she moved, and they are both dating other people. I’m really scared of getting hurt again. I’m really starting to have feelings for him.

We have been doing a lot together, including sex after the 4th date. But I can tell it’s not just a sex only relationship. I’m really Leary tho.. Because I dated someone awhile back that was the same way. And it ended up that he was seeing like 5 or 6 other girls it time. Having sex also. I know that it’s not timing to ask that we be committed to just each other. But I don’t want to get too involved if he doesn’t want that later. How do I know if he’s just passing time with me while his other girl is away? cuz she visits here often?

what can i say to him that wont scare him off? I’m really bad about talking about the serious stuff. And not sure how to put it without him thinking that I want him to commit to just me right away. But I just want to know that that’s an option later. Some guys just never want that at all.

When were together its amazing and romantic and sweet. and he talks about things like we will learn that in time it takes time to get to know and used to things when your with someone. So that means at least he’s sticking around. So can anyone shed some light? How do I know if he’s commitment type? And should I just wait and go with the flow a little while longer and maybe this will all come out in its own way. but then that’s the bad thing u risk getting your heart broken

hannah4
12-20-2006, 08:02 AM
You said that he has made comments that lead you to believe he plans on sticking around.... I had a relationship with a woman that made comments like that and then I found out the she had at least two other guys that she was telling the same things to....

Tell him that you're not looking for a lifetime commitment yet, but you would like to know if he is interested in more than a sexual relationship with you....

We can't be afraid to ask for what we want.... Good luck and I hope he's not a player. To share your views see Friends (http://www.vois.com)

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