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victoria4
12-19-2006, 07:25 AM
Some of you may have seen my post "W H Y? All opinions appreciated x"
That was all to do with my ex but I felt I needed to start a new one
FOR MY DAD
My dad was an extremely clever man - he was a professor of pharmacology, taught medical and dental students, did a lot of scientific research into cancer research, played various instruments in a jazz band, was Mr Fix It but most of all he was my dad!
4 years ago he was diagnosed with cancer. He sat me down in the lounge and proceeded to tell me this news. He was always a very logical and optimistic man and said that the Dr had told him he would live anywhere between 2 - 18 years and my dad said to me that he was sure he would live the 18 years. I realise now that he didn't really believe this - he was just trying to make it easier for me (sorry the tears are rolling down my face). Any way he carried on his life as best he could, smiling and never complaining. He had taken early retirement but was busier that ever, giving lectures abroad, buying and selling instruments and never complained about his problem. Sadly he died only 9 months after he was diagnosed. The hardest part I can't seem to understand is the fact that the cancer didn't kill him - he took an overdose. Some people may think that this is a selfish way out but not for my dad - this was a brave thing to do and he was only thinking of his family. He realized (being that he was in the medical profession) that his condition was getting worse and no treatment would cure him (the cancer was too far gone and in his bones now) so he was never going to get better and I believe he didn't want his family to see him suffer or to become a burden on us. I guess he went with his dignity intact but he wrote us all a good bye note. How hard was it for him to write a note knowing he was going to take a concoction of pills to end it all! I know that in my other post I perhaps come across a little insecure - maybe its coz people I love leave me. I just want to say to my dad that I love you very much and thank you for being MY DAD xxxxxxx

alexis9
12-19-2006, 07:28 AM
I know how you feel...my dad died 3 years ago on September 10th and I am already a bit down this week as I know it is coming. My dad was a good man, who loved his family, and died at 57 years old from lung cancer (he was a miner, and got black lung). It still hurts, and it always will - but you know, he was sick, and I am happy that he is out of pain now, and free. And the same with your dad - he is no longer in pain, and suffering - and you have such wonderful memories of a good man. That is what you need to hold on to, the journey of life you shared with him, not the ending. If you need to talk, feel free to meet your Friends (http://www.vois.com)

SoccerBaby918
12-31-2006, 08:35 PM
im sooo sorry

U must have gone through sooo much

Prayers,
Haley

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